It has been six months since my first blog post. No, this will not be a confession of any kind. But it will be a chance to reflect on how different things are for my husband, the Little Guy and me. On August 5, when I started this blog, I was awaiting surgery to repair … Continue reading
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Happy Birthday
It’s just after midnight on my son’s first birthday. I should be overwhelmed with joy right now. Instead, part of me wishes I could throw a plate through a window. I’m angry. I’m sad. And I’m weak right now. I’m angry because I feel like I got cheated out of the first nearly 10 months … Continue reading
The more you know: Birth injuries
No one is perfect. No labor experience is perfect. But unless a professional tells you something is abnormal, you don’t go in expecting trauma. I am grateful every day that it was me who sustained injury rather than my son. That’s not always the case. And sometimes both mother and baby are injured in severe … Continue reading
Should I have talked to my midwife about my shoesize?
A very dear friend of mine is not yet a mother but reads a lot about baby care, childrearing and at least partially because of my experience she reads about the pelvis and its role in pregnancy and childbirth. On Christmas Eve she opened a very thoughtful and lengthy email with a link to the … Continue reading
New Year. New me?
This time last year I was very pregnant. I ate a typical American diet, although I was paying attention to nutrition because of my unborn son. I had stopped exercising regularly because I had a regulation-sized basketball trapped under my ribcage and couldn’t do much of anything comfortably. The right side of my lower back … Continue reading
“Ignorance is bliss”
The last few days have given me a new appreciation of the phrase “ignorance is bliss.” The phrase used to make my skin crawl. Anytime I heard it I couldn’t help but think “No. Ignorance means you don’t care enough about yourself or others to learn the truth.” But Sunday, Monday and today have taught … Continue reading
The letter
This weekend, before my husband left for a four day road trip, I wrote the letter I’d been dreading. I put it off for months because of all of the emotions wrapped up in it and my need to be constructive. I dreaded writing it because I thought it would take me all day to … Continue reading
Don’t let my situation scare you
A friend I have known for years is expecting her first baby. This is very exciting and I was thrilled to visit with her today. I learned that she is having some discomfort in her back and hips. This entry is for her because as I thought about it I realized had I known someone … Continue reading
Shock and owie – getting used to my body again
I had a great day with my son today. My husband was working a basketball game and was gone from about 11 a.m. until after 6 p.m. so the Little Guy and I had lots of fun. I laid on the floor with him and we read three books that he had pulled off of … Continue reading
100 women everyday
Early in this process I discovered a statistic that I have shared here before. Everyday across the globe, 1 in 3,000 women will substantially injury her pelvis in childbirth (or pregnancy). And everyday across the world, about 30,000 women give birth. That means every single day, 100 women experience an injury like mine. It is … Continue reading
Separated at Birth 