Guest Blog: She will dance at my wedding

I met MS, the author of this blog, when I was 20 years old. We were both sitting in a room clutching newspaper clips, waiting to be interviewed by the managing editors of The Des Moines Register. We both wanted the same journalism internship. What struck me most about MS was how genuinely NICE she … Continue reading →

Parinoid or prepared?

Parinoid or prepared?

For some reason it hit me today that the surgery to mend my separated pelvis could have SERIOUS consequences. I spent about two hours today locked in thoughts centered around what happens if I don’t wake up. I checked with my mom about past surgery on my eyes. Did I have a reaction to the … Continue reading →

NP and LG to the rescue, part 2

Holy cow! If you would have told me I would come home today to two sparkling bathrooms, five loads of cleaned and folded laundry and gobs of boxes and tubs stacked neatly and filling two-thirds of the living room I wouldn’t have believed you. I should have. The stereotype of the Midwestern work ethic was … Continue reading →

NP and LG to the rescue!

Today was monumental. We went from about five boxes packed to more than a dozen boxes and tubs ready to go. Two dear college friends (who will marry each other in 53 weeks!) are here from Des Moines to help us. Tomorrow, while we are at work and the little guy is at daycare, they … Continue reading →

Proactive healing

Yesterday I started taking a zinc supplement in addition to my daily multi-vitiman. My husband did some research about wound care and the necessary minerals and zinc is essential. So, we stopped by Whole Foods and he got a supplement. (I stayed in the car with the little guy.) I told my mom about the … Continue reading →

Saturday, Saturday

Saturday, Saturday

It’s our last night in Omaha for a while and my husband went out to the bar with friends. I am THRILLED that he let himself go out and have fun. Obviously having a baby changed our social life. But my separated pelvis has obliterated it. At home he never goes out, never does his … Continue reading →

Imagining the future

I have been imagining more and more lately what it will be like to be in a wheelchair for 12 weeks. Will I be able to do things for myself? Will I feel safe alone? Will I still find ways to be the kind of wife and mother I want to be? Will it be … Continue reading →

Some things I will never understand

Lately I have been reading medical journal articles about women with extreme cases of Diastasis Symphysis Pubis (separated pelvis) during childbirth. In two of those cases the women were considered healed with gaps still larger than mine is today. That gets my mind racing about a million things. Among them: How much, if at all, … Continue reading →

Walk the walk

When I was in college I could get from one end of campus to the other in much less than the 15 allotted minutes between classes. I’ve always been someone who walks with purpose. Even early in my eighth month of pregnancy I walked faster than my husband. This week we’ve both been hobbling along. … Continue reading →

Think of him

It seems new challenges are presenting themselves every day. Today, for the first time in my life, I felt like the Universe was working against me. The stress bubbled up and we hollered at each other because there’s really nothing else we can do. I cried, he comforted me and when I told him I … Continue reading →